Sometimes, children make incredibly mature decisions without the contribution of adults. Sometimes, they make a better decision than adults might.
The problem posed when a child does decide to make a decision on his/her own is that the person who is still legally responsible for making decisions for a child is not consulted. The parent or guardian.
Many children would say they do not need their parent’s approval when making a decision. This is obviously a sign of independence; however, that does not mean the choice made is always right.
Paul Brager decides to do some things in More Precious Than Rubies without telling his father. He is not being defiant; he is only being doubtful about his own feelings and even risks his life in order to seek the truth. When he confronts the evil Mr. Theisen in Mr. Theisen’s office after school, with no witnesses present, he is showing a maturity that he has never possessed before. His intention is to save his father and brother from the deeds of Theisen and he does not disclose his plan to his father for fear of making his family’s situation worse.
Many children have made equally noble and brave decisions. Unlike Paul, they are usually not in grave danger.
Once they have children, parents need to communicate to them the dangers involved in deciding things without their parents’ input. But only by establishing a trustworthy, respectful relationship with their children will parents succeed at teaching the children the value of right and wrong.
Children will not be intimidated when approaching their parents about important decisions if this respectful relationship exists.